标签: 婚姻

An overview of a pre-marital counseling group in Shanghai

2012040714292466注:这是《婚前辅导》课程设计。

Introduction

In this paper I will provide a group counseling process targeting at young Christian couples in Shanghai. There are three major objectives for this counseling process:

  1. After the counseling process, the couples would know the Biblical doctrines and teachings regarding marriage and family life;
  2. After the counseling process, the couples would better understand each other and their relationship;
  3. After the counseling process, the couples would setup their marriage expectations correctly.

The target audience of the premarital counseling group designed in this paper is young Christian couple in Shanghai. They are the people that my wife and I have served in the past ten years. Below is a description of the persona:

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爱在蔓延时

多谢利未弟兄的推荐,我们得以全家在晚餐时共享这份来自《爱之蔓延》又译做《春天是美好的》的温情。难得一见的基督教Drama,难得一见的精良制作,难得一见的爱如此感人至深,在那个大雨滂沱的墓冢前,如上帝的爱倾注而下,定意要夺去你的心,将你寻回。

一路颠簸西进的Marty跟随丈夫寻找西部梦,好不容易看见了河谷和大片草场以为就此得到了家园,丈夫Aaron却在外出寻马的过程中遭遇意外。Marty为了熬过当地的严酷的冬天,不得不以结婚为代价暂居在鳏夫Clark的家中。而他们也有个约定,她好好教他的女儿照管这个家,等到春天来时就送她回家乡。如同不少家庭伦理片一样,在和他女儿的冲突,再冲突后,两人开始彼此接纳并且恋恋不舍,而男女主角的感情也如同片名一样,love comes softly。但有趣而值得玩味的却是在男女主角间从来没有正面地冲突,只有男主角Clark一次又一次的宽容和理解。他在Marty为失去的丈夫哭泣的时候就接纳了她作为他的妻子,在Marty和女儿起争执一心想离开的时候就宽容地告诉她,她们两的生命会因为彼此认识而变得丰满,在Marty怀着前夫的孩子却不敢挑明时,他宽容地保护她、安慰她直至她的孩子在他手中平安坠地。那些贯有的冲突戏码在Clark身上是这么欠缺,但却这么熟悉。是的,如果我不是因为这位神而今天生命改变并明白生命丰盛的意义;不是因为这位神在我还不认识他的时候就爱我,甚至容许我离开他、背叛他;不是因为耶稣基督一再的代求、圣灵一再的提醒使我看见那无条件的爱,我想我不会如此动容,甚至因此感受到父神眼里因我们的改变而发出的荣耀。

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